As a yogi, meditation has come up quite a bit in my practice over the years. My teacher has advocated for at least 1 hour of meditation time in a day, where in that hour I learn to still my mind, chant mantras and quiet the world outside so that the inner self will emerge.

It may seem easy. After all, how difficult can sitting in sukhasana, closing your eyes and focusing your thoughts be? There is no need to work on your core strength, or your flexibility. All you need to do is breathe and focus. But meditation is hard. And as hard as an asana can be, meditation is still harder. This is because meditation is stripped of all physical embodiments. In an asana, I can focus all my thoughts on grounding my feet. Or pressing my palms down on the mat. My focus is, for the most part, external.

But in meditation, my thoughts are on nothing. My mind is quiet. There is no need for me to focus on something external to keep the mind still because the mind is already void of thoughts and emotions.

For most of us, that seems like an unachievable goal. How can we quiet a mind that is so full of thoughts and opinions? How can we meditate?

Let’s accept that it is difficult

The first thing to do is to accept that meditation is difficult and a lifelong process. In the eight limbs of yoga, meditation or dhyana features as the 7th limb before enlightenment or Samadhi. This means that the practitioner would have ideally achieved the previous 6 limbs before even attempting dhyana.

True meditation is difficult and probably is one of the most difficult things you would do in your life. Understanding this is the key to helping you move forward.

Practice Pranayama, Pratyhara and Dharana before Dhyana

If you’re practicing yoga, chances are you’re already practicing asanas on a regular basis. Where you can, you should also try to incorporate the practice of pranayamapratyhara and dharana, and do it in that order.

Through Pranayama, you will learn to connect breath to movement so that your breath flows in a harmonious way. Pranayama is a yogi’s first contact with meditation, as it requires the yogi to consciously focus on breath and nothing else.

Pratyhara, which means withdrawal from the senses, requires us to disassociate from our sense of touch, taste, feel, sight, and hearing. When practicing pratyhara, it is not to say that we don’t experience these senses, rather, we make a conscious effort to withdraw and to detach ourselves from them. We may feel happy or sad, but the emotion does not affect us in any way. We become observers of our own emotions instead of participants in it.

Dharana – one pointed concentration – is a crucial practice to master before one begins to think about meditation. In dharana, we bring our focus inward to focus on a single mental point. Through this concentration, the mind and its ever-flowing thoughts slow down and eventually quiet. In dharana, we begin to bring our focus inwards towards the mind.

Once you’ve mastered these three practices, the process of meditation not only becomes smoother, but also more effective.

Begin with short periods

Once you are ready to meditate, keep your first few sessions short. Start with 10 minutes each time and then build from there. It is better to be fully still in 10 minutes than to meditate for an hour where only small fracture of that time is spent in true meditation. With practice, you will eventually be able to lengthen your time spent meditating.

Meditation is the only thing that will actually refund you the time you invested in it, as it has reversal effect on our ageing processes on cellular level. According to a study, people of average age of 50 who meditate regularly have bodies and minds as if they were 7,5 years younger.

So no more excuses that you don’t have time to meditate!

Practice, practice, practice!

The work to quiet the mind is no easy feat. Like the muscles in our body, we can strengthen the mind through practice. It is a myth to say that meditation means to not use the mind at all. Separating your mind from the senses, and disassociating it from the external world is hard work!

According to a Harvard study, trying to focus on one thing for five minutes inevitably leads the mind to wander off to other things, but at the same time trying to suppress a single thought about something forces the mind to keep thinking about it.

Start from some simple meditation techniques such as Zazen or sound meditation and try to meditate daily. Be consistent with your practice and like your asana practice, your meditation will get better.

Above all, practice aparigraha

It is almost human nature for us to be so fixated on a goal that we’ve set for ourselves. We are, in many cases, results-oriented. In meditation, we look forward to the day that we can achieve that stillness and peace that many have spoken about. Our focus is always on the prize.

Focus is not a bad thing. But ever so often, focus can turn into obsession.

Find balance by practicing a sense of non-attachment -aparigraha. Learn not to be attached to meditation. Understand that what is important is the process. Focus not on the prize but the experience at hand.

Chances are you’ll not notice any significant changes in your life right away, but meditation will change you in a way that next time before you explode with emotions you’ll take a deep breath or a moment to reflect. And maybe the moment when you notice meditation does work will be the time when somebody close to you says: ‘Wow, you are so calm, how you do that?’

Remember that even if you never truly and fully still your mind, it’s okay.


Author’s bio:

Elaine Clara Mah

Elaine is a yoga teacher who believes that quieting her monkey mind will be a lifelong struggle and looks forward to trying to find the silence on her mat daily. Elaine is also a writer at